by Chris Steele

A study published in the Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology titled “Bad Habits May Run in the Family,” showed that children with a parent who smokes, drinks, or uses drugs are more likely to adopt these behaviors. They also found parent-child links for behavior problems such as fighting, stealing, and problems with authority. Research scientist Jennifer Bailey said, “These children then grow up to be adult substance users, whose kids have behavior problems and the cycle is repeated.”

A Harvard study stated that the most decisive period in a young child’s life is between 8 and 18 months and their aptitude for learning is determined before the age of 3 years. They concluded that parents are more important than teachers in the education of children.

Scientist spend a great deal of time and money coming to the same conclusions that God established long ago. The influence that parents have on their children is something that has been around since the first couple had children. Even common sense tells us that a child’s first and most influential teachers will be his parents. Moses commanded parents to remind their children about God’s laws constantly (Deut. 6:6-9). In his exhortation to fathers, Paul said, “...provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord" (Eph. 6:4).

We may not be drinkers, smokers, or drug users, but our influence for good (or bad) is just as strong. If we are not living the Christian life 24/7, do we think our children will be consistent in their faith? If we don’t show an interest in the work of the church, do we think our child will want to be involved? If we are sporadic in our attendance, do we think our children will see the necessity of worship, Bible study, or fellowship with God and fellow Christians?